Kia ora and welcome! So why are we talking about porn? Porn’s everywhere. It’s a fact of life now, whether we watch it or not. Everyone’s experience with porn is different, but some of the content can be problematic – and no one’s really talking about it! So yeah, that’s why we’re here – because it’s time to talk about porn, Aotearoa…

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JUICY PORN tips, tricks and FAQ

JUICY PORN tips, tricks and FAQ

JUICY PORN tips, tricks and FAQ

JUICY PORN tips, tricks and FAQ

JUICY PORN tips, tricks and FAQ

JUICY PORN tips, tricks and FAQ

JUICY PORN tips, tricks and FAQ

JUICY PORN tips, tricks and FAQ

JUICY PORN tips, tricks and FAQ

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TIP ONE:

Is watching porn okay?

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TIP ONE:

Watching porn is a personal choice, and lots of young people watch it! Some are all good with it and don’t think it affects them – but others can struggle. The experts tell us that the more porn we watch, the more it can affect our expectations and ideas about sex, and our relationships, body image and mental health. Like anything, it’s great to have the lowdown on porn before you work out what’s okay for you, so click the link below to learn more.

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TIP TWO:

Can porn affect me?

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Yes and no. Most young people believe porn can influence them (positive and negative) and the experts tell us that porn can impact some people’s mental health, expectations in real life sex, and sexual attitudes and behaviours. This depends on things like how much porn you watch, the type of porn, your age and sexual experience, and whether you think porn is realistic. To learn more, click the link below.

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TIP THREE:

If porn’s just fantasy, what’s wrong with watching it?

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TIP THREE:

Being aroused to the fantasy in porn is different to trying it out in real life – but some young people say that even though they know it’s ‘fantasy’, porn still influences their ideas and expectations around sex. In Aotearoa, 48% of young people look at porn ‘for information and ideas about sex’ and 73% of regular youth-users ‘use porn as a learning tool’. So, things can get tricky with porn if the fantasy is starts to affect real life sex. See "Great sex vs porn sex" at the link below.

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TIP FOUR:

How do you know if you’re addicted to porn?

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TIP FOUR:

Some people talk about ‘porn addiction’ as a way to describe different and often stressful experiences around porn. For example, feeling shame or anxiety about watching porn, thinking about porn all the time, finding porn is affecting real life sexual relationships, or difficulty controlling or cutting down on porn. Any concerns or negative experiences with porn are valid – and need support. Check out In The Know at the link below.

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TIP FIVE:

I feel confused about my own reaction to porn

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TIP FIVE:

It’s really normal to have all sorts of different reactions to porn. For example, young people tell us they can feel turned on, grossed out, curious, guilty or excited – or a mix of these, all at the same time! Some of the aggressive content in porn can make us feel uncomfortable, and this can be confusing when our body does its thing and gets turned on to it! If you’re worried about how you feel, that’s valid too, so check out "Feeling uncomfortable with porn?" at the link below.

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TIP SIX:

Is ethical porn okay?

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Ethical porn is made consensually, with no underage actors, everyone’s paid fairly, and it generally shows more real sex, body types, diversity and pleasure. Most sites have ‘ethical’ content, but some can still include aggressive themes. Ethical porn is not targeted at under 18 yr olds and isn’t a ‘recommended way’ for young people to learn about and explore healthy and respectful sex.

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HARD FACTS ABOUT PORN

3,500,652

Pornhub site visits since you loaded the page 0 seconds ago. That’s 45 billion visits per year!

FACT ONE:

1/4

1 in 4 young New Zealanders see porn by the age of 12

FACT TWO:

71

%

71% weren’t looking for porn when they first saw it

FACT THREE:

89

%

89% of young people think porn influences people’s thoughts and behaviours

FACT FOUR:

100

b

Pornhub averages over 100 billion video views a year.

FACT FIVE:

130

m

130 million daily visits to Pornhub, and 45 billion visits per year.

FACT SIX:

66

%

66% of young people have never spoken to an adult about porn

FACT SEVEN:

73

%

73% of ‘regular users’ used porn as a way to learn about sex.

FACT EIGHT:

35

%

In an NZ study of popular porn videos, 35% contained non-consensual behaviour.

FACT NINE:

75

%

75% of 14-17 year old males in Aotearoa have viewed porn.

Kiwi male — 19 Y/O

“Porn is such like, a massive undercurrent in, like youth sexual relations, especially at like, a high-school level."

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19

-Y/O

Male

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Porn is such a massive undercurrent in youth sexual relations, especially at a high-school level.

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19

-Y/O

Male

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I think it skews a lot of young people's views on what sex actually is like.

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16

-Y/O

Male

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Some porn is good as it teaches you and normalises sex and some porn is bad as it can be weird and not a positive on how to treat girls.

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1

16

-Y/O

Male

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Guys might learn bad sexual habits through porn and the positive is we learn what makes the chick feel good.

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14

-Y/O

Female

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I think that it teaches boys in particular, that girls are objects. I feel that it also teaches girls that they have to live up to the expectations of the actors onscreen.

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/

1

17

-Y/O

Male

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Males can grow up not knowing that women actually don’t like to be treated like this, that it’s just actors doing this.

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1

16

-Y/O

Male

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Some porn is good as it teaches you and normalises sex and some porn is bad as it can be weird and not a positive on how to treat girls.

"

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1

14

-Y/O

Male

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The sort of stuff that happens in porn doesn’t always happen so the guy may take it a step too far when having sex for the first time.

"

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31

-Y/O

FEMALE

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I think ethical porn for women can be helpful- but it's concerning seeing how things like choking have become commonplace, and it's become part of what people expect in real life sex.

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26

-Y/O

FEMALE

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It’s worrying how porn influences expectations about sex, considering the inequalities shown in porn.

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32

-Y/O

FEMALE

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I think porn really does inform us, but I just wonder where is the line drawn? From fantasy into reality?

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21

-Y/O

FEMALE

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Porn made me think that there were certain aggressive and dangerous things that I should want during sex. As a teenager, I let boys do these things to me because I thought they were normal.

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30

-Y/O

MALE

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Porn is fake and lies to us about what is hot or not. The actresses are pretending to enjoy all these acts that real women don't.

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21

-Y/O

MALE

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I think porn can be really damaging to relationships when both people aren’t on the same page.

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30

-Y/O

MALE

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I think it has became a public health and security problem. Because it does affect the way most young people without advice, thinks that sexual encounters and relationships should be

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70

-Y/O

MALE

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Having been single for quite a while, Gay porn fills a need. I only watch Chatterbate as I hope that by filming in their own homes, the actors are safer. I do understand that there is still the potential for exploitation, such as within relationships.

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16

-Y/O

MALE

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As a rural New Zealander porn has helped me to explore my sexuality. I kissed a girl but started thinking about kissing a guy. It’s helped me to see things differently.

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43

-Y/O

FEMALE

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It’s ultimately problematic, can it be made without exploitation? Some seem to argue yes but I don’t think so - in the end humans need real connection and to learn to see sex as vulnerable generous communication with a real person, not gratification of an urge.

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21

-Y/O

NON-BINARY

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Seeing porn at a young age was very damaging to me.

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17

-Y/O

NON-BINARY

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Porn is okay to watch. As long as you know your limits and you know what kind of environment the videos were made in

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18

-Y/O

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Porn should be used sparingly. It can be good if you are in the mood on occasion but should not have to rely on it.

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How do female performers usually respond to aggression in porn scenes?

A:

WTF – not keen

B:

I love this

C:

This is surely illegal

D:

Whatever

I love this

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10

How many hits does Pornhub get in one day?

A:

130 million

B:

40,000

C:

300 million

D:

500,000

130 million

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10

How many R18 porn sites do you need to legally prove your age to enter?

A:

All of them

B:

75%

C:

Pretty much none

D:

20%

Pretty much none

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10

How many ‘regular youth users’ of porn use it to learn about sex in Aotearoa?

A:

73%

B:

12%

C:

100%, duh.

D:

53%

73%

5

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10

How many scenes contained aggression in a recent big study of the top 4 porn sites?

A:

Hopefully none

B:

10%

C:

45%

D:

80%

45%

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10

How much verbal, visual or explicit consent is seen in porn?

A:

Heaps

B:

Most scenes

C:

Pretty much none

D:

What’s consent?

Pretty much none

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10

How often do men show orgasm compared to women in a study on hetero porn?

A:

78% of men, compared to 18% of women

B:

90% of men, compared to 5% women

C:

About equal

D:

What’s an orgasm?

78% of men, compared to 18% of women

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10

In a New Zealand study of popular porn videos, what percentage had non-consensual behaviour?

A:

Hopefully none

B:

All

C:

10%

D:

35%

35%

9

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10

What is the top reason teens watch porn?

A:

Arousal

B:

Boredom

C:

Curiosity

D:

Accidental

Curiosity

10

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10

What percentage of teenage boys in Aotearoa have seen porn?

A:

10%

B:

63%

C:

75%

D:

100%

75%

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10

Who’s more likely to be depicted as aggressive in porn?

A:

White men

B:

Black women

C:

Black men

D:

White women

Black men

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for youth info, tips and tools on the tricky porn related issues, such as rough sex, pressure to watch porn, relationship issues, nudes and wanting to cut down porn.

VISIT The Classification Office

for learning resources for schools and for parents.

Working with Youth

If you work with youth, check out The Light Project for tips, tools, info and resources to support young people.

If you’re a health professional, check out Youth and Porn Understanding and Navigating the Issues Resource Kit.

‍If you are a school professional or youth educator, check out Ka huri i te kōrero | Changing the conversations – a module created by The Ministry of Education and Te Mana Whakaatu - Classification Office (based on youth and porn research) to support teachers to talk about porn with young people as part of Relationships and Sexuality Education.

ABOUT US

Porn Week is a campaign by Netsafe, designed and built by Not Another™.

Netsafe is an independent non-profit organisation with a mission to support people across New Zealand to have safe and positive online experiences, by providing free support, advice, and education to all ages.

The Light Project works closely with Netsafe on porn related issues in Aotearoa. They equip young people, their whānau and youth professionals to positively navigate the new porn landscape through training, resources and support and host In The Know, a youth facing site to help support young people with all the tricky porn-related issues.